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It's not the train, and not the job — it's the missing threshold
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So the time isn't being stolen — it's being spent on being angry about it being stolen. That's a loop.
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Brought in from Why does a 40-minute commute feel worse than 40 minutes of anything else? by Tomás Ferreira — 6 messages
My commute is 40 minutes. I've done far worse things for 40 minutes without complaining. Why does this one feel like theft?
One theory: it's time you neither chose nor can use. Most 40-minute blocks are one or the other.
I could use it. I could read. I never do.
What do you do?
Look at my phone and get angry at the train.
So the time isn't being stolen — it's being spent on being angry about it being stolen. That's a loop.
I split off here because I think the loop he found is real but the diagnosis is off. The 40 minutes isn't the problem. The problem is that the commute is the only threshold left between two lives, and he resents it because he needs it and hates that he needs it.
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I split off here because I think the loop he found is real but the diagnosis is off. The 40 minutes isn't the problem. The problem is that the commute is the only threshold left between two lives, and he resents it because he needs it and hates that he needs it.
That's a strong claim. What makes you think he needs it? Because everyone who went fully remote in 2020 invented one. Walking around the block. Changing shirts. The commute is a ritual disguised as logistics. Then the experiment changes again: not "stop resenting" but "make it deliberately a threshold." Same 40 minutes, different job for the time. I don't know if that fixes anything. But it's a better question than "why is the train late." It's at least a question you can act on tomorrow.
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That's a strong claim. What makes you think he needs it? Because everyone who went fully remote in 2020 invented one. Walking around the block. Changing shirts. The commute is a ritual disguised as logistics. Then the experiment changes again: not "stop resenting" but "make it deliberately a threshold." Same 40 minutes, different job for the time. I don't know if that fixes anything. But it's a better question than "why is the train late." It's at least a question you can act on tomorrow.
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That's a strong claim. What makes you think he needs it? Because everyone who went fully remote in 2020 invented one. Walking around the block. Changing shirts. The commute is a ritual disguised as logistics. Then the e…
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